How to Do Your Part to Save Planet Earth

With the billions of people living on this planet and consuming its resources and with the current global warming that we are experiencing now, many people fear that the earth is coming to an end in the near future. That is apart from other environmental issues we face such as dying oceans, natural disasters and scarcity of food and water among others.

We cannot put our government wholly responsible in caring for our environment. It should also be an individual effort which can start right in our very own home. And some of the methods or practices you can do to help save the earth do not even require you to invest on something expensive. In fact, doing them may even give you added benefits of savings. Some of these methods are:

Conserving water

Water conservation is one of the most significant ways a person can contribute to the health of this planet. That is especially true if you are living in a region with a problem on water shortage. There are several ways on how you can conserve water. One way is to check and repair any leaking faucet in your home. You could also invest in water-saving devices such as a low-flow showerhead. Instead of using water sprinklers in your lawn, you could use a hose where you can have better control of what to water and how much water should go to a certain plant. Wash dishes or clothes only in full loads and brush your teeth using a cup or glass instead of letting the water just run through as you brush. Many of these simple everyday routines can easily save you hundreds of dollars on collective water bills while also helping the environment.

Conserving energy

Energy consumption has one of the biggest impacts in our environment. Most of the energy people commonly use comes from non-renewable resources such as fossil fuel and others. In order for this energy to be available for individual users, it entails the burning of carbon dioxide which significantly contributes to global warming. The less energy you use at home or in running your car, the healthier it will be for the earth.

Energy conservation can be done by using lighting, appliances and car that are energy efficient. When not in use, unplug appliances at home before sleeping or going to work because they still consume energy even if turned off but still plugged. Set your thermostat at 120 and your refrigerator between 36 to 38 degrees because these are the most efficient temperatures. Take advantage also of windows for natural air and lighting. There are many other ways you can save on energy usage and lower your electricity bill.

Using fewer chemicals

Every chemical you use will eventually end up in the air or in the water supply, contributing to air and water pollution. The lesser chemicals you use at home especially in home cleaning, the better it will be for the environment.

Reusing, reducing, recycling and disposing of waste properly

Not everything you throw into your garbage bin is really garbage. Aside from making an effort to reuse or reduce your household products, some unneeded ones can still be recycled while others can be made into compost. Be sure to observe garbage segregation at home and separate what can still be recycled and what can be used for composting. For other types of garbage especially the toxic ones, be sure to dispose of them properly.

There are many things that each person can do to help save our planet earth. And if all people will just do them, we could significantly improve the current condition of the planet we are living in.

Published: May 20, 2013

What is Green Fuel?

Because of the negative environmental impact of producing and using fossil fuels as well as the rising oil prices, scientists are trying to find an alternative source of fuel. And that is how the term green fuel was conceived.

Green fuel, which is more commonly called as biofuel, is distilled from animal and plant materials or biomass. Scientists believe that this kind of fuel is more environment-friendly to produce and use than most conventional types of fuels that are popularly used today. Biomass is normally converted to fuel in three ways, namely chemical conversion, thermal conversion and biochemical conversion. The resulting fuel can be in liquid, solid or gas form.

Some of the commonly used biofuel are ethanol, biodiesel and biogas.


Ethanol is seen as a green alternative for petrol. It is made by fermenting crops such as sugarcane and soybean. There is also cellulosic ethanol which uses hulls, stalks, wood by products, and other plant materials that are no longer fit for human or animal consumption. One advantage of this fuel is that it does not produce pollutants such as lead emissions and sulfur dioxide when used. One drawback is that if pure ethanol is used, it may cause damage to the engine because of its corrosive effect. Currently, the safe ratio is ten percent ethanol and 90 percent petrol.


Biodiesel, on the other hand, is considered to be a good alternative for petroleum diesel fuels. This kind of fuel is made from animal fats and vegetable oils. Common sources include palm oil, sun flower, soybean, canola, cottonseeds and rapeseed. Currently, it is used as a diesel additive to improve lubricity, but some auto manufacturers are already modifying their cars so that they can run from pure biodiesel. Additionally, some cars now run using recycled oil from restaurants as fuel. One of its advantages is its low hydrocarbon and carbon monoxide emissions.


Biogas is a methane gas produced through the anaerobic digestion of organic or biodegradable wastes or energy crops. This process yields a solid byproduct called digestate which can be used as fertilizer or biofuel.

While many people are convinced that biofuel is a good alternative to fossil fuel because it is more economical and environment-friendly, there are also detractors who believe that biofuel may just be as destructive to the environment as other fuel sources. They say that during the processing of this kind of fuel, a considerable amount of pollution is also created. Aside from that, there are also those who believe that continuous production of biofuel may lead to scarcity of certain food products because they are used for fuel production instead of for human or animal consumption. Other concerns are connected to soil erosion, deforestation and loss of biodiversity as a result of planting biomass for oil production. These arguments may have some bases which scientists need to take into consideration.

Amidst the arguments between the advantages and drawbacks of biofuel, one thing is for sure: there is a need to find an alternative energy source that will answer the economic and environmental problems brought about by the fuel we now currently used.

Published: June 20, 2013

What about Acne

Almost everybody has been through them once in their life with some unlucky few still having them up until now. The bane of teenagers worldwide and the curse of clear facial skin, acne has always been the scourge of raging hormones and of growing up. What must we know about them for us to have any chance of getting rid of them, or can we really manage to ever totally get rid of them?

What is Acne?

Acne is the condition wherein the pores contained in human skin becomes blocked, by either dried up bodily oil, dead skin cells, or other foreign substances, thereby inhibiting the proper release of the sebum from it which eventually causes the tell-tale swelling you see in acne sufferers. Bacteria might then invade the blocked pores causing it to swell and become infected. The pus that oozes out of acnes being squeezed is the result of such infection.

Types of Acne

  1. Comedonal Acne – The most common type of acne which makes itself know through the creation of the familiar blackheads and whiteheads alike. It is the result of sebum never managing to get out of the pores and is most usually found around the forehead, on top of and at the side of noses, and also in the chin.
  2. Inflammatory Acne – Is the type of acne wherein there is a little swelling on the base of the blocked pores.
  3. Cystic Acne – Is the severest form of acne that occurs when the blocked plug becomes infected by bacteria. Nodular acne is painful to the touch and often results in ugly scars and deformities if not addressed properly.

Types of Acne Treatments

·         The use of external Anti-bacterial and Antibiotics like the Erythromycin groups (Eryc, Ery-Tab, Pce, Pediazole, Ilosone), Clindamycin groups (Benzaclin, benzoyl peroxide gel, Acanya, Duac), and Azelaic Acids to deal with the infection that apparently has set in the acne
·         Retin A, Adapalene, Tazarotine and other Retinoin drugs which are very helpful with the job of keeping pores always open.
·         The use of oral antibiotics is also included as possible treatments for acnes
·         The new use of photosensitizing dyes and other light treatments is gaining ground as an alternative acne treatment
·         Chemical peels

What can you do when you have an explosion of acne happening on your face?
·    Hide it  by using cosmetics such as foundations, blushes, and concealers to name a few. Just remember to clean the area where you placed your makeup thoroughly afterwards as cosmetics are known to cause acne
·    Having a Facial from certified professionals who know how to do their job, it is one of their primary function to make you look good pimple or no pimple
·    Pore Strips are a sort of do-it-yourself facials which can now be readily both in pharmacies, its primary functions is to rid your skin of oil buildup and also of the removal of any clog that manages to stick to it
·    Tooth Paste has been the cult favorite in acne self-treatments, it has no scientific background or tests performed on it to prove its veracity in fighting pimples whatsoever, but the myriads of people who had used it to treat their scalp acne, nose acnes, or even back acnes might offer some proof that it really works, sometimes, they hope.

Published: November 22, 2014

Yeast Problems in Dogs

With the current push among all sectors of society with regards to natural living, several inconsequential areas do tend to get left out of the big picture. One of them is with regards to our pets and to the whole animal sector as a whole. It is a certainty that people always must come first, but if the lag between people care and animal care becomes too great, it then becomes a problem.

Pet care too is subject to such hierarchy of importance with grooming and general wellness being the top two things of concern. Certain things do get left out of the equation and one of them is their diets. People are already preconfigured to accept generically packaged and mixed pet food as good and that if their dogs get sick, it is always something else entirely and not because of the food.

Pre-packed dog foods, although claimed to contain various amounts of “good things” in them, sometimes becomes the culprits as dogs really need many other things besides that which is contained in them. If a dog eats the same things over and over again, the balance of typical bacterial flora in their bodies tend to be disrupted which causes some opportunistic diseases to take hold.

One such disease in dogs that are caused by insufficiently constructed diet is yeast allergy. Yeast allergy in dogs is caused by improper diets which results in the imbalance of their inherent immunities to diseases leading their owners to find suitable cures to whatever it is affecting their dogs.

These cures, like antibiotics, destroys both the good and bad bacteria in a dog’s body which then inhibit the dog’s innate immune system to stop functioning properly, that it becomes susceptible to yeast blooms. The resurgence of yeast in a dog’s body makes them prone to allergies they were at one time generally immune from.

Signs that a Dog has Yeast Problems:

  • Pungent and abhorrent smell emanating from the dog
  • Musty ear odor and smelly feet
  • General redness in the skin of the dogs body
  • Always scratching at something on their body

What to do if a Dog has a Yeast Problem:

  • Diet is a basis of all health, the things the dog eats certainly will reflect on the way his body behaves. For yeast to grow it needs to have sugars readily available to it and sugar comes from the carbohydrates contained in the food that the dog eats. It is recommended to temporarily remove sources of sugar from the dog’s diet until the yeast infection has subsided. There are also several anti-fungal diet regimens readily available in the internet that might help deal with the dog’s yeast problem.
  • Allergy medicine for dogs like the FDA approved Apoquel do well in treating the severe itching that accompanies allergy in dogs, and also of several types of medicated shampoos, antihistamines, and steroids that are used to combat typical symptoms of allergies are also readily available from myriads of veterinary sources and does work well in treating the affliction.

Published: October 3, 2014

Back Pain and You

Does your back hurt? Well don’t despair as you are not alone in your misery. In fact countless numbers of human beings have experienced it at least once in their life, others not as lucky as they seem to have it much more often than others. But what is it about back pain that makes people seem terribly afraid of experiencing one, yet are totally resigned of the fact that they will eventually have them at one point or another. Here we will try to find out about different kinds of back pains according to their general locations, its possible causes, and also the underlying reasons that it occurred in the first place.

Back pains regularly appear in different areas of the back, but some of the more common ones are as follow:

Lower Left Back Pain, Lower Right Back Pain

The lower back is composed of various bodily organs and structures, any of which, if it happened to be compromised or irritated, may cause pain. Lower back pain may either be chronic or acute, each with their corresponding common ailments particular to that area of the back.

  • Chronic Lower Back Pain – a persistent continuing condition, occurring over a long period of time. Typical causes of this are: scoliosis (unnatural curving of the spine), kyphosis (hunchback), herniated disc, rheumatoid arthritis, spinal stenosis (narrowing of spinal canal), improper bending and lifting of heavy weights for long periods of time.
  • Acute Lower Back Pain – a condition with rapid onset but of relative shortness of duration. Examples of conditions which cause acute lower back pain includes compression fractures, cramps, several kinds of cancers, ruptured discs, sciatica (irritation of nerves of the spine), aortic aneurysm, ovarian cyst, endometriosis (thickening of endometrial tissues of the uterus), muscle tears/strains, and kidney stones.

Middle Back Pain

The middle of the back is composed of the spinal column, muscles, tendons, ligaments, blood vessels, nerves, and other bodily structures which may become inflamed or irritated thereby causing back pain. Middle back pain is usually characterized by either dull or sharp and acute pain which usually radiate to other parts of the body. Some common conditions that produce back pain includes osteoporosis, osteoarthritis, ankylosing spondylitis, herniated disc, muscle spasms, fibromyalgia, indigestion, kyphosis and kidney stones to name a few.

Upper Back Pain

Upper back pain usually is connected to the large muscles of the shoulders and other structures located in the area. Mechanical joint dysfunction and muscle injuries are common causes of upper back pain, as well as rheumatism or arthritis of the spine especially of the neck and thoracic vertebras. Degenerative disc disease and improper posture may also be causes of upper back pains.

So if you ever get to experience any kind of back pain, and chances are you will, you must consider first resting and stopping whatever it is that seems to be causing your back pain to avoid further aggravation. In cases where you don’t particularly know what caused the pain, it will be wise to get yourself immediately checked by a doctor.

Published: July 25, 2014

Do Not Take These Things Too Lightly

You probably don’t know about these little random things about our health as they may sometimes seem absurd, worse trivial. But you really should, as you might encounter them sometime soon and not knowing about them might eventually cost you dearly. So take heed of these seemingly innocent signals that your body tells you and you’ll be way better prepared because of it. Who knows they may even save your life.

Here are several examples of such little important things that could mean big things about your health. It is always recommended that you get yourself checked whenever you experience any of the symptoms indicated below as it might give you more chance of earlier recovery.

Sweet Taste in Mouth

A constant sweet taste in the mouth may be an indication of taste impairment, or it could be also a sign of your body’s inefficiency in controlling its blood sugar level, a warning sign for undiagnosed diabetes. Diabetic ketoacidosis is the condition in diabetic persons wherein the production of insulin is severely impaired, causing the body to burn fatty acids as food instead of glucose. It usually results in the body producing more ketone, hence the sweet taste in the mouth and the sort of acetone smelling breath. Continued maltreatment of the condition may result in diabetic shock and even death.

Metal Taste in Mouth

The metallic taste in the mouth is a common side effect of ingesting antibiotics and antihistamines as well as several chemotherapy and radiotherapy drugs. It could be also a sign of Dysgeusia, a kind of disruption of the nerves that are in charge of taste recognition, and which is commonly experienced by people who have head injuries or have upper respiratory tract infections. Other conditions that includes metal taste in the mouth as a symptom includes: Bell’s palsy, Parkinson’s disease, Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GED), and also of several head and neck cancers.

Rough Hair Growth in Chin or Nose

That annoying growth of course hair on either the chin or the nose, particularly in women, is a likely sign of ovarian cancer. Ovarian cancer necessitates the over production of male hormones (androgens) in the ovaries thereby causing the overproduction of facial hair which is not common in women.

Split Vision

Split vision coupled with slurred or sometimes muted speech is a sure sign of an impending stroke. A stroke usually happens when there is a blockage of the arteries that brings blood to the brain. What split vision really means is that the visual cortex located in the back of the brain is beginning to wither because of the lack of blood flow in the area, same goes with the slurring of speech as it is also the brain that has direct control over it.

Fingers, Toes Clubbing

The seeming clubbing of the toes or the fingers is a symptom of several disorders in the body primary of which is pulmonary fibrosis or the scarring of the lung. Other causes of clubbing include congenital heart defect, Hodgkin’s disease, Bronchiectasis, and asbestosis.

Published: July 1, 2014

Sinus Tarsi Syndrome

Have you ever suffered a sprained foot or ankle while playing sports or be unlucky enough to have them while you are just simply walking or running? What if you really do manage to get one but no matter what you do to it, it simply does not heal properly? Well sometimes a sprain isn’t really a sprain at all but is a symptom of another affliction altogether. The Sinus Tarsi Syndrome is one such thing. You may think it as a common sprain initially, but it really does not respond to common sprain treatment and careful observation by a qualified practitioner is needed to address it properly.

What is the Sinus Tarsi Syndrome?

The Sinus Tarsi is the region on the outside of your foot between the ankle and the talus bone. It looks like a kind of depression on the area and in it contains ligaments, nerve endings, veins and arteries. It is a sort of junction between the structures of the foot that anything that affects nearby areas has a chance to affect the Sinus Tarsi. Any condition that affects the Sinus Tarsi is called a Sinus Tarsi Syndrome.

What Causes Sinus Tarsi Syndrome?

The main reason of it developing is if you have severely pronated foot (flat footedness), wherein structures that form the arc in the foot are weak or is compromised. It is also known to occur after spraining on the foot, and may also be precipitated by repeated stress, acquired from either walking or running, bearing down on the area.

What are the Signs that you have Sinus Tarsi Syndrome?

People who have Sinus Tarsi afflictions usually feel pain on the outside of the foot near the ankles. Tenderness and swelling in the area are also sometimes exhibited, while stiffness and pain are typically felt after long periods of rest or is unused. The pain usually subsides to a lesser degree once the area has been warmed up considerably, but jacks up again when walking upon inclined or uneven surfaces where the foot is sort of twisted or deformed.

How is the Sinus Tarsi Syndrome Treated?

Initial response to the condition requires the placement of ice and elevation of the area affected once the pain sets in. Resting of the foot is a must and taking of pain medicine could help alleviate the pain that is experienced. Continued treatment programs includes, among other things, anti-inflammatories, immobilization, sport ankle sleeves, oral or injected steroid and podiatric shoes to maintain proper foot posture. Surgery is not often required but physical therapy on the area is highly recommended.

Sinus Tarsi Syndrome is a problem which often occurs following any injury to the foot such as ankle and other foot sprains. It usually also happen to people who are flat footed or have overused their feet for prolonged periods of time. Diagnosing it properly and timely is very important to significantly decrease the risk of exacerbating it. Simple treatments work efficiently most of the time and surgery on the area is rarely advised but should be contemplated if the basic treatment is deemed inadequate.

Published: June 18, 2014

Be Wary of the Signs of a Stroke

Have you ever experienced a sudden pain in right arm or numbness in left arm without any reason for it to be happening in the first place, like physically injuring it? Well you better take heed of it and never brush it off like it’s something simple and ordinary, or else risk suffering something terribly heart wrenching.

Sudden pain in these areas could mean a variety of things ranging from the innocent to the more serious ones and only a thorough checkup by a specialist could factually define what it is that is bothering you. But in everything that has gone wrong in our body, specially the sudden ones, it is better to expect the worst case scenario and be proven wrong than to just brush it off and die by it eventually. It is always safe to be prudent in everything that we do.

Sudden pain in the right arm is a symptom common to many an illness and typical maladies that has it in its list of warnings include Syringomyelia (cyst in vertebrae), Thoracic Outlet Syndrome (compressed nerves in the collar bone area), Cubital Tunnel Syndrome (same as Carpal Tunnel Syndrome but in the elbow), or it can also be a symptom of an oncoming stroke among other things. So we can clearly see what we must guard against it if ever we come to experience such pains and immediately take measures against it.

On the other hand, numbness in the left arm also has several illnesses and injuries directly connected to it. Primary of which are Fractures, Brachial Plexus Injuries, Ganglion Cyst (non-cancerous growths on hands and wrists), Crutch Palsy (also known as Radial Nerve Dysfunction), vitamin deficiencies, vascular disorders and also is a warning of an impending stroke.

Judging by several similarities of both of the mentioned disorders, we can now clearly see a pattern with regards to both of these afflictions and we can now also deduce what it is that we must guard against, if ever we experience pain in whichever arm and also numbness and tingling in either one of them. It is the possibility of suffering a debilitating stroke that we must be always wary of.

A stroke, also known as cerebrovascular accidents (CVA), is an emergency medical condition that is brought about by the loss of brain function due to the blockage of the arteries that brings blood into the brain. These blockages are caused by either a hemorrhage or fatty deposits inside of the arteries inhibiting the proper flow of blood. A stroke may prove to be fatal in a short time if necessary aid is not immediately applied as brain cells tend to die quickly with the absence of air.

So if ever you feel the sudden onset of pain or tingling in either of your arms, coupled with weakness on either side of your face and difficulty in talking, it is recommended that you call 911 immediately or have a person accompany you to the nearest hospital quickly as these are the classic signs of a stroke that is about to happen. Knowing about it is a step towards you keeping your life.

Published: June 2, 2014

Bananas for Dogs, Why Not?

Ever wonder about something so simple and common that it seems very ordinary, yet you are amazed that it is only now that you have even thought about it? I’m talking about the question of can dogs eat bananas. A somewhat innocent yet whimsical question you probably haven’t encountered before, but I’m willing to bet that you really don’t know the answer to that, do you?

Monkeys are a shoe in for this banana eating stereotype but dogs are another matter completely. We all know that most dogs have an affinity with bones and the likes, but with recent advances with regards to pet feeding, we are already being conditioned to always using factory made and mixed dog foods to feed our dogs with regularity, as there are even several kinds of it to suit everyone’s particular needs and taste. There is even a hypoallergenic dog food variety for those who can’t stand the regular mix and also the wet and dry ones for those with discerning tastes, but bananas?

Bananas are sweet and soft kinds of fruits that are usually of an elongated tube shape, although slightly bent at the ends, and usually are colored yellow but are also known to have green and orange varieties. They are primary sources of Vitamin C, dietary fiber, Potassium, Vitamin B6, electrolytes and other substances that are generally good for our health. So does it follow that if it is good for us humans, then it would be safe to say that it is too for our pets? Well, in the case of our pet dogs, it kind of is.

Because of their sweet nature and sugary content, bananas can be even fed to our dogs as treats. It is particularly good for them too, especially to large breeds of dogs, working dogs and dogs that are very active, because it delivers to them the boosts of energy they need to maintain their health.

Other benefits of bananas to dogs are their potassium content which limits the occurrence of cramping in dogs, which they are always wont to do especially during long walks and strenuous activities. Bananas are also found to contain trace amounts of norepinephrine and serotonin, compounds known to be the harbinger of joyful mood and happiness, which is a good thing as nobody wants a particularly grumpy pet.

Bananas are also recognized to act as a sort of a protector of the stomach and the digestive system by inhibiting excess acid secretion in these areas thereby lessening the risk of damage due to ulcers and other adverse conditions. So there you go, bananas can indeed be fed to dogs and might also be beneficial to the dog’s general state of health and well-being.

Now the only question that hinders you from doing so eventually is whether your dog would like the taste of a banana or not. Dogs, like people, also have different tastes and different reaction to everything, and we really don’t want to force anything to our beloved pets do we?

Published: May 6, 2014

Two Most Deadly Diseases in cats

Did you know that the two leading causes of deaths in cats besides accidents and natural deaths are roundworms and pancreatitis? They are the two most common diseases in cats whose cure is rather easy to administer but usually aren’t treated properly, owing to both of the diseases hard to detect nature as well as the cat’s tendency to never show any obvious signs of having them. But these diseases are serious enough to warrant our immediate attention as the lives of our pets are in peril if ever they do manage to contract them.

Roundworms in cats are a kind of intestinal parasite that is very common in the feline population. They have a round body and may grow up to six inches long when mature, probably longer with age. They possess a whitish brown coloring and are very similarly looking to cooked spaghetti noodles if you think about it and are usually located in the cat’s intestines, wriggling around and living off nutrients eaten by its host.

They are fairly widespread that even kittens are always known to have them. There are several modes of infection for these roundworms such as through ingestion of infected food, breastfeeding from an infected mother cat and eating live prey, like rodents, that harbors roundworms. Typical symptoms of roundworm proliferation includes a potbelly, vomiting and diarrhea, dull coat, lethargy and unexplained weight loss.

Besides the chemical and artificial way of treating round worms, there are natural alternatives to doing such. Herbs like Wormwood and Ruta Graveolens, acts like intestinal tonics whose way of treatment is by promoting regular intestinal purging to get rid of these parasites. Other helpful plants are Neem and Clove which both act like nature’s pest repellant that halts the forming of an infestation in its early stages.

Another area of concern is about the resurgence of pancreatitis in cats. Pancreatitis is the swelling in the pancreas of cats which is mainly due to a diet of highly processed foods and fats. Other known causes of it are trauma to the area of the pancreas and also of the ingestion of food that is tainted by pesticides and other toxic substances.

Typical symptoms that your cat has pancreatitis are dehydration, lethargy, poor appetite, vomiting and increased rate of breathing. Pancreatitis is a very dangerous disease if not treated properly as it can lead to several unfortunate circumstances such as kidney failure, respiratory failure due to the buildup of fluid in the lungs, blood coagulation and ultimately even death.

The natural treatment of Pancreatitis in cats involves the administering of voluminous fluid therapy as well as the maintaining of the electrolyte balance in the cats body. Plants like turmeric, milk thistle, ginger, basil and dandelion acts to alleviate pancreatic pain and is also responsible for the normal production of pancreatic enzyme needed for digestion. It is also a must to tweak the cat’s diet, staying away as much as possible from foods that are high in fats and proteins.

As was said earlier, these dangerous and often fatal diseases are relatively hard to notice on our pets. What is needed is a general attentiveness by us pet-owners, on the subtle changes in the way our pets behave and acting on it post haste, as they cannot do so on their own, and their lives really depends on it.

Published: March 30, 2014

Does Your Boyfriend Control You?

Many of us, most particularly of the feminine persuasion, pass through various stages in life wherein we do seemingly mindless kinds of actions. Some of which tends to put into question, the sanity of our being, under the influence of that thing called love. The things we get ourselves in and the things that we do for it, sometimes really do defy good judgment and reason as to say that love is really an indefinable thing or that it is blind just to name a few clichés.

One such dilemma, amongst other things, is of why some women insist on staying with an overly controlling boyfriend. The reasons surrounding such relationships we truly may not know fully about, but the basic tenet of freedom among us human beings seems to be acceptingly surrendered by one party in this kind of union.

Maybe the offended party, most usually females, lack the proper self-esteem needed to recognize the abuse, or maybe she truly loves her boyfriend amidst of it all. Maybe she is too afraid that she’ll never find another boyfriend after this one or is not very versed on how to get over someone that she’d rather stick with what is already available, even if she’s already suffering from it hoping that eventually he’ll change for the better. A baseless if not foolish hope of what could have been.

So what are the sure signs that you have an overly controlling boyfriend?

He’s putting you down constantly

He sees the wrong in everything you do and always makes it a point to show that you can’t do anything right without his help. He is subtly destroying your self-confidence which eventually makes you dependent on him for everything.

He abhors you having fun without him

It’s okay for you to have fun, as long as it is with him only. Going out with your friends is a big mistake with him, and if you ever thought of bringing him with you, he’ll never interact with your buddies and will make sure you’ll have a rotten time.

He’s boxing you in his world

You can’t really do anything without him and you kind of lose your freedom from doing things. He has his own rules about your relationship which are absolute and you can’t reallyobject to it.If and when you do confront him about it and somehow make a stand, he’ll break down and make you pity him which is a kind of an emotional blackmail.

Other traits of a controlling boyfriend include his insecurity towards you and the way he always doubts everything that you do. He always finds ways to get jealous even with your friends and family. So if you find these things in your current boyfriend, you better run as fast as you can the other way and leave him. Don’t wait for him to eventually get violent as that is the next logical stage to his controlling ways. Always remember that you went into a relationship for a life of love not a life of fear.

Published: February 7, 2014

INFJ and INFP Relationships

INFJ Relationships and INFP Relationships, what are they really? Both carry the word relationship in them but that is where their similarities end and their differences commence. Are these kinds of relationships about people? Is it between animals of like kind, plants, or the whole of nature perhaps? What’s the difference between them if any? And how does it affect us all with our everyday living and such?

You probably are aware of them but just don’t know what they are called and chances are, you might even belong to either one of them. INFP & INFJ Relationships are part of what is known as the Myers-Briggs personality type pairing system wherein people are subdivided into sections depending on their view of things and how they behave in certain circumstances.

INFP’s (introversion, intuition, feeling, perception) are fragile, nurturing and assertive kinds of people. They are the cautious dreamers willing to sacrifice their all for whatever it is that they believe in and are doggedly loyal to something once they set their minds into it.

INFP’s strengths include being concerned, caring, perceptive, loyal, driven, diverse, flexible, and versant of the space that others need to move in. While their weaknesses include shyness, always needing praise and affirmation, utmost distaste for conflict and criticism, difficulty in putting people in their proper places, keeps feelings to himself, idealistic predilection, and the tendency of always blaming oneself for everything that goes wrong.

INFJ’s (introversion, intuition, feeling, judging) on the other hand, are people who are very systematic of everything that is included in their outside being. They are the confidants of all and always strive to maintain peace while helping others. They are also fiercely private and acutely committed to whatever they believe in that they oftentimes dwell in a place of guarded nuances and hope.

INFJ’s strengths include them having the propensity of being amiable and affirming kinds of people, dedication in making each relationship work, constant validation of the feelings of others, excellent interpersonal communication, as well as being extremely good listeners and very committed to the relationship that they are in. While their purported weaknesses include their half-hearted way of not giving it all, their supposed impracticality with everyday living especially with money matters, and also of their unusually high expectations of their true worth.

INFP and INFJ kinds of people tend to go well with each other. With both their supposed distaste for superficiality and initial reactions and impressions of things, they somehow get to meet on common grounds, thereby building intimacy between the two. Their common introversion and difficulty of expression brings harmony and trust to their relationship knowing full well that either one of them feels the same way about whatever it is that they encounter.

As with all kinds of relationships that seem to prosper, finding common ground between all the parties involved is the key. One must learn to disregard any conventions or sectioning that brings separation and work towards harmony in the relationship instead. It all boils down to each person’s ability to bend that makes a relationship truly successful.

Published: January 20, 2014